Your Cart is Empty

Empower Her To Lead

by Eva St. Clair January 13, 2017 2 min read

“Why not me?” It’s the question that changes a dreamer into a leader. The problem is that many dreamers get stuck at “I don’t know how.” And from there, it’s just a short step to “...so I can’t.” We can empower our kids to push past their doubts and take the steps toward becoming leaders by encouraging them to cultivate some habits that all leaders need.

Get a little arrogant…. Leaders tend to harbor optimism bordering on arrogance. It’s not just a healthy can-do spirit - it pushes the boundaries of possibility. And leaders need it, because otherwise they’d give up in despair facing all the setbacks and obstacles they encounter on the way. There are two things we can do to help our kids develop this kind of near-crazy confidence.

First, we can model optimism. It sounds corny but learning to appreciate the positive, long-term progression toward a goal bolsters a leader’s interior motivation. We can be realistic or even pessimistic about details, but encouraging kids to see the big picture in a positive light is crucial if they are to become leaders. It also inspires others to follow and stay committed to the leader’s vision.

Second, we have to help them develop grit. Don’t let them give up easily. When something is difficult, we should encourage them to try a little longer, push a little harder. Set a time frame if they say they absolutely hate it (sometimes they don't - they like the activity but not how hard they have to work) and then let them quit, but don’t let them stop right away. Learning to push through difficult moments is essential in becoming a leader.

….and a little humble…. We should help our little leaders understand that not knowing how to do everything will always be present. We should encourage them to get comfortable asking questions - and asking for help. At Princess Awesome, we usually don’t know how to do many of the things we have to do, because neither of us have run a business or worked in fashion before. So we usually have to ask others for help. Sometimes we even have to ask which person we should be asking!

...and really excited about the journey. Leaders experience a constant influx of problems. In fact, that’s what makes being a leader interesting. We should teach our kids to take pride in learning how to do new things, and even to enjoy facing unknown challenges. The thrill of novelty is never absent from a leader’s life - love it, and change from a dreamer into a leader.

Eva St. Clair
Eva St. Clair

Eva St. Clair is a co-founder of Princess Awesome and the company's Chief Creative Officer. She and her husband are raising four kids outside of Washington, DC.

Leave a comment

Comments will be approved before showing up.

Also in Awesome Thoughts from our Blog

About the Designer - Catherine Davis

by Eva St. Clair May 17, 2023 3 min read

I’m a freelance textile, surface designer, illustrator, author and artist based in Calderdale, West Yorkshire, and I love what I do! I have a degree in textile design but have always painted and sketched even from a little girl.

Read More
About the Designer - Heleen van den Thillart

by Eva St. Clair April 25, 2023 3 min read

Hi! I am Heleen, an illustrator and designer from the Netherlands. I design cheerful, cute and colorful patterns for fabric and paper. My designs are inspired by my kids, my garden and my love for picture books for children. I combine raising my three children with my work.

Read More
About the Designer - Julie Carpentier

by Eva St. Clair April 21, 2023 1 min read

My name is Julie, and I’m [X] years old. I live far enough from Montréal, Canada to have wild bunnies in my backyard, but close enough to go to museums. I’m married to a loving and caring geek who makes wonderful coffee lattes.

I loooooove science and space, always was the artsy one in science and the science-y one in arts at school. I follow James-Webb as much as the weathercast news!

Read More